Dreams and Goals: Why They Matter

Dreams and goals. They are often used interchangeably because they work together. For the dream to come to life, one must have goals in place.

The internet defines a dream as a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal. It’s more than something that was thought of on a whim. A dream is something that percolates within you; something that you value---cherish. I believe dreams are a part of us; something deeply connected to the core of who we are.  Goals are the stepping stones of our dreams: practical and attainable.

Why do they matter?

Dreams and goals provide a sense of direction and purpose to life. It is easy to simply exist and not live. I’ve been there. I believe dreams and goals are such a beautiful part of fully living. It adds a pep in your step and vision for your everyday life. When you have a dream, you walk through life differently. Dreams impact your actions, influence your choices, and ground your decisions.

I feel as we get older, it is easier to dismiss dreams. We leave it in our childhood or teen years and trade it in for “adulting” never allowing the dreams within us to have a chance.

But, what if we allowed ourselves to dream where we are, not letting the limitations of our circumstances determine what or how we dream? What if we shook off the pressure of what a dream is supposed to be or look like and had fun? Allowing ourselves to let the deeply cherished ideals or aspirations breathe in our hearts anew.

I believe no dream is too big or too small. A dream of baking a chocolate cake from scratch is just as valid a dream as influencing a low-income neighborhood or impacting politicians. A dream for you may not be a dream for me and obviously that’s beyond okay. It’s how it should be. I have many dreams. I have a list of over 100 dreams. Some of them are legacy dreams, something that my children’s children will carry out; dreams I may not see happen. Some of them are random and probably nearly “impossible” or “silly”, like being best friends with Adele (yes…a real dream of mine on my list). Other dreams are deeply connected to what I believe is my purpose in life. Either way, that list took time. It took me giving myself permission to dream where I am.

Whether you have one dream or 10,000, every single one of them matters and are invited to show up and unfold in your everyday life. And, every time we dream and watch it be fulfilled, we are invited to dream again and to dream bigger and deeper than the last time.

Now, you may be reading this thinking, “well that’s great Danae. Real glad you have a massive list of dreams, but I don’t even know how to or where to start”.

That’s. So. Real.

If you are reading this and feel you no longer have the capacity to dream or feel you are pass your prime for dreaming, let me tell you something:

You are never too late or too old to dream. You are never incapable of carrying a dream. So long as you have breath in your lungs, you can dream.

The first thing I would encourage you to do is to ask yourself, when did you stop giving yourself permission to dream? At what point in your life did the deeply cherished aspirations you had in your heart cease to exist? Go back to that moment. Face that moment. Forgive that moment. Release that moment. Next, I would encourage you to ask yourself, what was the last thing you really wanted to do or see happen? Start there.

Dreaming again, dreaming new dreams, is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. Dreams shift and morph; they ebb and flow through the seasons. But, understand this:

dreaming and pursuing dreams is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. And there is so much joy and grounding in the journey.

You may find during this month that hey, my dream for this year is to dream again and THAT IS AMAZING. My heart swells at the thought of that. It is a beautiful place to be to allow yourself to dream again and go on the journey of discovering what stopped you and how to start again.

Whichever space you find yourself in, know that you are not alone on this journey. We here at This Wondrous Life are rooting for you; believing that you can dream again, sustaining and thriving in the process.


#TWLDiscover Challenge #3:

If you didn’t last month, download the 2018 Dreams and Goals Worksheet and write down your dreams for 2018. Next, share at least 2 of your dreams with a friend for accountability. Snap a pic of you and your friend using hashtag #TWLDiscover letting us know that you’ve shared your dreams.

If you find that you don’t have any or don’t know how to or where to start with dreaming, I encourage you to ask yourself the questions in the post above. Reflect on when you stopped giving yourself permission to dream, forgive that moment and release it. If you wanna talk more about it, don’t hesitate to contact us here. Remember, you aren’t alone in this!